What's the rush? Why you need to SLOW DOWN...

Nov 13, 2022

Summary:

In this training, I share with you the root cause of impatience and why most people are often in a hurry. I also discuss why you should consider slowing down to enjoy more of the present moment.

We explore:

- What's The Rush? Why most people are in a such a hurry and how to overcome impatience.
- The root cause of our collective impatience
- Do the work to relax your mind and body so you can be here now, in the present moment

Full Transcript

Introduction

Beautiful humans, welcome to another episode of Become Unlimited with Jonathan Perez, where every week we explore what it really means to live an unlimited life. This week, I want to talk to you about the topic of impatience and where it comes from, and why most people are living in this state of hurry, of frustration, of impatience that we got to get somewhere fast, and if we don't, then we can't be okay with ourselves. There's never enough, there's not enough, I have to do more, I have to be more, I have to give more, I have to become more. And I want to talk to you about this because this is something that I've had to deeply overcome in my own life, and I still work on it every single day whenever it might arise.

But being in those states of impatience and frustration and always being in a hurry because we feel like we need to do something, and if we don't, we feel this feeling of lack, like we're not going to have enough or be enough, or there's this underlying fear, and it doesn't allow us to be in a state of relaxation, of feeling calm and at peace and having peace of mind and clarity and just simply being relaxed. I talk to you from wisdom, because I would wake up most days in the morning and I would feel this rush, "Okay, I need to go do something because that would then help me feel alive." And what I started to learn was that I was addicted to the feeling of adrenaline that I would get when I would go and rush into doing something, and I would go into the stressed mode automatically, and I didn't know that that was the case, I didn't know how stressed I was, I didn't know how much I was operating from that place, but what I will say is that it helped me feel something, it helped me feel alive.

I didn't know any other way to feel alive and just content, because I was programmed to believe that for me to feel a sense of fulfillment, I have to do more, I have to be more, I have to give more but it was a feeling of, I need to, I should, versus I want to. And that's where I started to realize, Okay, there's no rush, Jonathan. When I wake up in the morning, I can take a moment. I can relax my body and instead of doing things from a place of I need to, or else something bad might happen, or if I don't work more, I might not have enough money, or if I don't do this project, someone's going to think this of me, and I don't want that. So usually it's a sourcing of approval or validation or security that we're trying to derive from doing more, and that gets us into this jacked up mode of always feeling like we need to do more.

How To Start Overcoming Impatience

But once you start to do a lot of this work around regulating your nervous system and being able to relax your body, you start to realize, Wow, I was actually doing a lot of those things because I feel like I needed to. I was conditioned to doing all of that to feel alive. But when you start to feel relaxed, you start to realize, at least in my experience, and if you're not experiencing this yet, I promise you will get there with continued practice of relaxing your body and your nervous system, that everything is already here. I don't need to do more. Everything is already here in this moment, and instead of doing things from a place of lack, like I need to do it because or else Something might happen, or I won't have enough of something, if I don't work more, I won't have enough money, if I don't work more I won't have the next promotion, that's all from a place of lack and scarcity. And those are underlying beliefs that we're conditioned to believe through society, through the movies, through other people, through the way that we see the world and how it operates or conditioned and programmed to believe that unless we do more, we won't get what we want.

Now, you might have a thought, Well, Jonathan, you can't just not do anything. And yes, there's some truth to that, but it's the difference between knowing that you want to do something out of a place of desire, meaning, Okay, I'm already okay in my being, but it would be beautiful to build a business. Alright, well, the business isn't just going to build itself, you're going to have to take action, so if you want something, it doesn't mean that you won't have to do anything. And this is where a lot of people get stuck because, and I've experienced this too, as we start to talk about this in personal transformation, personal development, spirituality. Oh well. Well, if you're saying that being, just simply being, I'm already whole complete in this moment, it's enough, then why would I want to do anything? What's the point?

What If Everything Is Already Here... If So, What's The Rush?

Well, if you start to realize that you are whole and complete and there is nothing missing from your experience of life, that you don't it to be rushing or being impatient or be in a hurry, that you can decide out of a desire out of a want of saying, Wow, well, you know what? My business is great, and I feel very happy with it and content. But it can be better, and I'm going to choose... And notice here, I'm going to choose to make it better out of a desire or wanting to experience it in a more beautiful state. So that's different than feeling like you need to, or else somebody else is going to build a better business. That's what gets us into the state of impatience, frustration, and lack and scarcity. So I just want you to notice the difference. If you start to recognize that in this moment, truly, we are already whole and complete.

And if from that place, we feel the desire or the wanting to pursue something, then we have to recognize, Okay, if I want to become a master piano player out of a pure desire to experience that, I know that I already feel happy and whole, but I actually want to become a master piano player, for example. Well, I have to recognize that that's going to require me to take action. To buy a book, to buy a teacher, to study it, but I'm not doing it because I feel like I need to or I feel like if I don't become a piano player, I won't receive the sourcing of approval, validation or love from something outside of me. And usually people do things in their life because they are afraid that they won't get that validation, approval or feeling of security. So if you can source that from within you and realize that you're already whole, you can pay attention to your desires and say, Okay, what do I want to experience? Choose it, and then recognize what steps you need to take to get there, but there's no rush, you don't have to rush, that doesn't mean that you don't make progress in a consistent way, and create a plan and take consistent aligned and inspired action. That's not what I'm saying, of course that's what it's going to require you to do, but you're not doing it from a place of lack.

So I hope that this makes sense to you, and what I want you to note, if you don't take anything else is to begin to notice, and this is the to do, if you will, how you can put this to work in your life is to notice whenever you feel a desire, maybe you wake up in the morning, or you feel the urge, that's a better word, 'cause that's the difference between the desire and the urge. You fill the urge to do something. Notice what the context of that doing is, Okay, why do I want to do that? And if there is a belief may be there, for example, in relationship, it might be, Well, if I don't go and do that, this person might not love me anymore, and underneath that, there's a feeling of, And if they don't love me anymore, where am I going to source my love from? So you can get all the way down to the core, it's fear, it's a fear of loss, of lack, a fear of not being able to get approval or validation from something or someone outside of us, but if we can overcome that illusion and realize that we are already whole and complete.

And this takes work. Believe me, it's not easy, but I'm trying to show you what's on the other side, that from that place of feeling whole and complete, you can choose out of desire, out of a true want to do something. And then all of a sudden the impatience disappears, there's not a rush. And the way that that's manifested itself for me, for example, is before, you see these books, right? Before I used to read these books like, I have to get more, I have to know more, if I don't know enough, I'm not going to be good enough, I have to know more. Then I started to realize, wow, I'm rushing through these books, I'm not even really getting what I need, and over time, I started to notice the same pattern in the context of everything we've been talking about.

Enjoy Every Moment

And once I had started to become more calm in my body, more relaxed, more content with myself, I started to love myself where I'm at in this moment, I started to not rush through, but as a matter of fact, I take sometimes months to read one single book because I take my time, I digest it, I really work with the information. And I've started to realize there is no rush to get through all of these super quickly, why? Enjoy whatever you do decide to do. Enjoy it. That's what we're here to do. We're here to enjoy life. We are human beings, not human doings.

Reach out to me on Instagram @JonathanPerez.life, or you can find me on my website www.JonathanPerez.life as well. You can find more content there and you can reach out to me. Again, I trust that this will serve you in some way. If you have any questions or comments, please. Definitely reach out to me. Thank you for tuning in. Much love.

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